I am a non Mormon. He just saw someone die or gave a devastating diagnosis or did an incredibly complex surgery with potential complications. I could never do it. You guys sound like you have a great and committed relationship - a true jewel in this world. Yes have moved away from family at 7 months pregnant to knowing no-one and starting from scratch and having no support network especially from husband who couldn't wait to get away and had the cheek to say he dreaded coming home some nights, poor him, I dreaded being home most days. Best wishes to those struggling with these big, life-altering decisions. Interesting to read the concerns of so many doctor's wives.
I would advise you to try to be as understanding as you can of her point of view, because having you world view shattered is very difficult and can take a long time to recover from. First of all, Mormons are people so there is a spectrum of what they actually believe on a personal level, and what beliefs are most important to them. She likely hasn't had many long-term relationships and has no idea what dynamics are involved in one. My life may not be as stressful as that of a medical resident or a doctor, but I do often spend upward of 70 - 80 hours per week working. Sounds like classic "flirt to convert. I have been doubting if this relationship is going to work because I hardly ever talk to him so my first reaction is okay who else is he seeing??. As your future self, I say this with the utmost respect and admiration: Two peas in a pod. If you can genuinely deconvert her then cool. I hope that makes sense.
Right now she won't even watch a movie. Every new set will see your man with fresh and hungry eyes as a potential golden contact. And your needs essentially have to be silenced a lot of the times. Don't fall in love with a doctor. Righteous love does conquer all but in some cases it takes a lot longer than we are willing to wait.
How do Mormons feel about contraception. He should tell her that he will never convert, and that if she will not be happy unless he does, the relationship should end. It just gets so lonely you invariably commission yourself a single parent. He studies all day and night I live in my own world and my own circle. I haven't read every post like you probably havebut I've read a lot of them. Any advice from people who have gone through this would be awesome.